It’s getting dark earlier, the holiday season is rolling along and it’s less than 200 days until camp! A lot of us are already starting to feel the pressure to build awesome programs for this Summer and hire the best staff possible in a really tight job market. Remain calm! Don’t forget, you did it last Summer and it was the “Best Summer Ever!”, right? Well, it won’t happen magically and the stress is there so it’s important to make sure you get “into the groove” so you can optimize your time, be ready for the next 200 days or less and put yourself in the best possible state of mind to make this Summer even better than last.

Here are some simple ways to make sure you get and stay in the groove:

Take care of yourself! It’s important that despite our hectic work and personal lives that we find time for some self-care. Watch a movie, go out to a nice meal, do something that’s just for you or just sit somewhere with your beverage of choice and some good tunes. It’s pretty incredible what happens to our brains/creativity when we “still the waters” and turn off all the distractions.

Get Organized! Technology has made our work easier in many ways and it’s also made it incredibly difficult to find balance and set boundaries. I use a calendar app to set my day up into different categories including “Dave Time” everyday. This is time that I reserve just for me and use as a time to work on a project, run an important errand or take some time for myself. The app also allows other people to schedule time based on the parameters you set up. It’s also a really good exercise in sticking to a schedule and staying focused.

Be Open! It’s easy to hunker down at our desks, listen to a podcast, go to the occasional conference and just keep plugging away at the seemingly endless list. What’s not so easy is asking for and accepting advice, reaching out to potential mentors or finding a community that you can rely on for support. It’s all about making sure that you don’t get caught up in trying to do it all yourself. It’s important to recognize that the camp community is vast and willing to help so put yourself out there!

Hope these tips are helpful as we get down to crunch time and offer you some solace that you aren’t alone! Everyone is feeling the heat and if you work hard to get (and stay) in a groove, it will make camp that much sweeter when it finally arrives!

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In the spirit of the holiday season (Happy Hanukkah to those who celebrate!), here is an article from Dr. Chris Thurber that might give you some perspective to make it through your shopping lists with a little extra humor and goodwill. Enjoy!

Lead Me Not Into Temptation

I offered to watch my 8-year-old’s belongings tonight at Gate B8. From across the hall, he had seen the Chicago Museum of Natural History store in O’Hare.

We could both see the realistic looking stuffed animals, including arctic foxes, ring-tailed lemurs, and three-toed sloths. (Beanie Babies are so‘90’s and Webkins are so 2010, don’t you know?) In fact, the shelves were full of cool toys, from quartz crystals to books on Egyptology.

“You can go over there while I stay here with our stuff,” I said to Sava. “I can see you from here,” I added reassuringly.

He thought for a long moment. “Will you buy me something?” he asked, repeating the mantra of most elementary school children who have grown up in a commercialized culture.

“No,” I said reflexively. Then I offered my rationale: “You have enough stuffed animals already. Plus, Christmas is next week. Who knows what you’ll get?”

I blanched at how much I sounded like my own parents. Didn’t we all promise ourselves as teenagers that we wouldn’t become our parents? Now that I have, at least in part, I don’t know whether to be appalled or resigned.

I snapped out of my self-analysis and added my original, refreshing spin on parenting: “If you see something you really like, you could get it with your own money.”

This was a calculated statement, of course, since I know my children are far less likely to spend their own savings than mine. Funny thing.

“I better not go over there,” Sava said. “I’ll just be tempted.”

Man, I’d like to bottle that. In my clinical psychologist’s world, half the teenagers I see have gotten themselves into a jam ceding to temptation.

Choose your flavor of stress: academic, social, parental, athletic, physical, disciplinary. Some of it is caused by forces outside of adolescents’ control, but a good chunk results from giving in to short-term pleasure in the form of drugs, video games, hook-ups (online and off), and gossip.

Who knows whether Sava will be able to resist these tantalizing teen turn-ons. I’m not even sure how he does it now. But my hunch is that giving youngsters some measure of autonomy at a young age—which we do so well at camp—helps them better understand the consequences of their actions.

The word consequences has a negative connotation for many, but young people must also experience the many positive consequences of their actions. Especially important is enjoying the rewarding results of a long-term effort.

I often wonder whether Sava’s playing the violin—wherein it takes hours of practice over many days to learn a new piece—helps him delay gratification in other arenas. My guess is that cultivating forbearance does generalize, at any age.

The holy grail of parenting, of course, is providing appropriate supports and opportunities in life while somehow attaining the balance between freedom and restriction. It’s an ideal we all strive for but never quite reach. I guess that’s why it’s called youth development not youth accomplishment.

So here we are now on our flight from Chicago to Seattle, without a fox, lemur, or sloth. Chalk one up to impulse control. Maybe it’s a harbinger of mature self-regulation.

With some combination of luck and my continued effort, Sava won’t become anxious, get into academic trouble, develop an eating disorder, acquire an STD, or get kicked out of school. Resist those temptations, baby.

Now, if I could just get him off my iPad we could both get some sleep.

 

Dr. Christopher Thurber serves on the faculty of Phillips Exeter Academy, a coeducational boarding high school. He is also the father of two boys and author of the best-selling Summer Camp Handbook. In 2007, Chris co-founded ExpertOnlineTraining.com, with a vision to become the world leader in online education for youth development professionals. Additional resources for camps, schools and families can be found on CampSpirit.com. To book workshops or contact Chris directly, e-mail [email protected].